#FemTrending: "I'm a crier. I cry. A lot."

#FemTrending is a blog series with a feminist kick that wades into the waters of things "trending" in popular culture and politics. Written by GS&NS Digital Content Coordinator, Hailie Johnson-Waskow.

The article Don’t Be a Duck by Olivia Land starts by proclaiming, “I am a crier… I cry. A lot.” 

I’m a crier. I cry. A lot. 

One of the most effectively stigmatized actions is crying. Public crying is consistently societally constructed as a symbolic act of weakness. Crying carries such heavy shame that individuals who do it in public become objects of display; all eyes peeking from their activities to glance at the victim. 


The general aversion that most individuals feel toward crying is an unfortunate effect of the patriarchy. Toxic masculinity dictates that showing emotion is a feminine attribute while reason is exclusive to men. Because crying is one of the most extreme expressions of emotions, it is socially disgusting to openly cry in public. 

Let me reiterate. I love crying, I find it incredibly therapeutic. According to Dr. William H. Frey, “crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s a healthy one.” Crying helps us naturally reduce emotional stress that has incredibly harmful effects on the body. In other words, human are supposed to cry.

Cry more. It’s good for you. 

Hailie Johnson Waskow